How can i get him to be a little needier? i crave more attention. We're both post kids/marriage in our 40s.

When he's 'attentive' i'm more than satisfied, he is completely into me and what he is doing. Like the most attentive man of my life. i am very attentive to him as well; i make sure i give as good as i get. his uninhibited nature has freed me to be the same for the first time in my life (no other man has handled my intensity). So i feel like i have turned into some kind of junky now. We may not see each other for a week. I cannot stop myself from being who i am. I need his attention more on a regular basis. I don't see him enough. It's like a crazy fix. I feel completely obsessed about it if we are together and he doesn't start some intimate encounter. I don't know who all these women are who don't want like all the time (aside from exhaustion and responsibility). I maintain my cool, but secretly inside, i just want that fix from him. That awesome connection we have...then i can go on without fixating. And, it is just him. We are in a monogamous committed relationship.